November 6, 2019 Last updated November 5th, 2019 1,497 Reads share

How to Use Social Media Before, During and After Divorce and Not Harm Yourself

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Social networks are that unique case when the benefits and harms met in one place to force all people on the planet to start and end their day by viewing the feed. And this would not be so bad if social networks no longer replaced reality, and did not become real reasons for a divorce.

However, at this stage, the problems have every chance of not ending. If you or your former soulmate have led a too busy social life, then be prepared to feel the Miranda rule in action, only in a slightly modernized form. Now everything that you post will be used as a statement in court, and against you as well. Therefore, we decided to create this brief instruction on how to correctly use (or not use) social networks when you are at the stage of divorce apply.

The Danger of Social Media Profiles

If you already feel the need for a file for divorce online, but while this idea is at the intention stage, then you better clean up your social networks right now. Social media profiles are just an endless source of evidence, each of which can be used against you. Even an innocent photograph with a colleague from another state can be interpreted as adultery. Therefore, it is best to position yourself on a social network as an honest person who has nothing to hide. Well, or at least try to create such an appearance.

But with regard to the social profiles of the person you want to divorce, you need to act exactly the opposite, until he or she identically read the above advice and did not begin to get rid of unnecessary information.  Take screenshots of all the valuable information and store it on your phone with a biometric password, or even better somewhere in a well-encrypted cloud. And do not forget to share everything that you managed to copy with your lawyer.

Why you Should not Post Content During Divorce

The best thing you can do while your divorce process is in its active phase is to carefully select the content that you post on social networks. If before the divorce you led a rich social life, then it will be suspicious if you completely stop appearing online. And your ex’s attorneys will be even more interested in you to dig up as much evidence as possible. Therefore, write the most neutral posts and publish the most adequate photos (selfies are the best option because it is impossible to find your fault in the image of your portrait).

You can safely write that you are sad, lonely, depressed and do not know what to do, but never write anything about your plans to find a new partner as soon as divorce court forms confirm that you are divorced. Do not write about your ex, even if you are sure that he or she is the worst person on the planet. Do not write about the trial, the judge and the lawyers – all this may not be interpreted in your favor. Mentioning the name of a law firm or online divorce service that was used is allowed and considered safe as long as it’s not covering the details of a court process.

Control your Appearance on Social Networks

Previously, we’ve discussed the effects of divorce in the workplace, the same is applied to behavior in social media accounts. After the divorce, you should also keep a decent appearance on social networks. If your divorce turned into a war, and you won more than you should, in the opinion of your soulmate, then most likely he or she will continue to closely monitor you to wait until you do something incriminating. And then challenge the court decision. If you intuitively feel that the war is not over yet, then you will have to adapt a little to the situation until all issues from your previous family life are resolved and you get the right to live on as you like.

Therefore, if your children stayed with you, forget about photos from nightclubs and parties surrounded by alcohol. And all that we listed about topics that cannot be addressed in your posts in the previous paragraph also remains fair.


Social networks are a great way to spy on your day and night. Do not give your ex such an opportunity. But do not raise suspicions if you suddenly disappear from online space. It is best to keep a reasonable middle ground and each time to foresee the consequences of each of your actions both online and in reality.

Chase Sloane

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